The Curse of the Girls

So I'm about to expose a theory of mine that is probably very controversial. That's one of the reasons that I decided to put it on my blog. The other reason - no one really reads this anyway, so I doubt anyone will get offended.

Perhaps it has not gone unnoticed this phenomenon with women - the hot ones, I mean, the really sexy ones, are kind of...well...bland. There's the stereotypical ditzy blonde. And then, of course, there's the stereotypical dorky nerd girl. I mean, the really smart girl who can't handle her hair, doesn't know fashion, and probably would have gigantic glasses if it weren't for the modern accessibility of contacts.

I have seen this in my life, although there are exceptions and stretchings to the rule. However, I feel there is definately a trade-off for women when it comes to being smart or pretty. And you don't see this trade-off in men. In fact, it seems like a lot of really cute guys are also very smart. Of course, no girl wants to be only one or the other, which is why I mention the exceptions and...well, the smart girls can look good, too!

So here's the theory, and it all has to do with how we're built - mentally, I mean.

So before about middle school age, girls and guys are kind of intellectual equals. By that I mean, the cute little girls and the not-so-cute little girls are all across the spectrum when it comes to how well they do in school. However, once they hit middle school, it starts to stratify.

See, guys get their "validation," from what they do, what they're good at. So whether they're good looking or not, tall or short, fat or thin, a guy will continue to strive to do his best at whatever he wants to get out of life - whether school or sports or something else.

Girls, however, get their "validation" from other people - from having a boyfriend, or having a strong group of girl friends. They need to be liked. Well, look at what happens to girls in middle school - they start developing their adult features, they get interested in clothes, some of their parents let them start wearing makeup. And middle schoolers are incredibly shallow and immature.

So we have several different types of girls at this point.

The girl who is naturally good looking will, of course, be accepted into the "popular" group. She will always have a gaggle of friends around her and a boyfriend (probably the cutest boy in school). In this situation, no matter what her academic potential, what motivation does she actually have? For her it is much better to spend her time keeping those friendships and keeping up the image that got her there.

Then there is the girl who is not good looking, but she is smart. This girl is not naturally accepted. She has to prove herself. Being in this "proving herself" category throws the girl into the same situation as the guys. If she's not accepted by people for who she is, then she will be accpeted by them for what she does. Likewise, if she joins clubs (drama, music, debate, speech), she will be joining "groups" and "teams," and thus making her friends that way.

Finally we have the girl who is neither smart nor good looking. Perhaps this girl has another talent and she pursues that. More often than not, however, the girl takes the "good looking" route. Although she wasn't blessed with the natural looks, she dons the popular clothes, layers on the makeup, and dyes her hair blonde. This is essentially where we get the stereotype of the ditzy blonde. Now, when I say not smart, this girl may not have an IQ of 145, but she does have the ability to study the world around her and conform. She can study fashion and keeps up with the latest styles. And when she's done shaping this image, she is pretty.

Now, I hope this shows a more positive outlook than I started with. Girls can be very talented and very smart. They also have that female allure - and everyone is pretty in their own way!

But this is my theory - I have case studies that I have examined to test it. And I also have House, or the writers behind it. In fact, the reason for this post tonight was that he validated my theory last night, when he said, "Beautiful women don't go to medical school. Human nature is to take the easiest course to a path. You could have married a rich man or been a model, or even just had it handed to you for showing up."